"The hardest thing about going to the Center was trying to figure out how I was going to talk to them. I kept practicing the words in my head and I couldn't figure out how to tell them that I wasn't getting "turned on." I wasn't getting wet and sex just didn't feel "good." Like I thought it was supposed to. I didn't even realize I wasn't having orgasms.
The first visit was only hard for about the first two minutes. The doctors at the center were so great about asking questions. Talking to them seemed so normal that I forgot to be nervous. I felt like I was talking about shopping.
They prescribed some creams, some medicine and let me try out some vibrators.
I couldn't believe I was using a vibrator. Me! I'll never forget the first time I tried it by myself and all of a sudden I understood what everyone was talking about and what I had been missing! But then I had to break the news to my husband. We had been having sex for about 10 years and he thought everything was fine.
I never told him the truth. The doctors at the center helped me with that too. We spent time talking about how to talk to him, how important it was to tell him the truth. Eventually I did tell him. He was pretty upset initially, but then, when he got over it, he seemed really excited and happy that things were changing for me.
We have a great sex life now and I feel "normal," thanks to everyone at the Center.