Stories about Low Desire
Betty's Back in the Bedroom
Betty" is a 71-year-old retired clinical social worker. Having a great sex life was always part of her marriage of 47 years, she says. But a few years ago, toward her late 60s, my libido just got up and walked around the corner. It went away, and I wasn't sure it was ever coming back!"
Desire for her husband was sorely missed by them both.
We have always had a very good sex life, it's always been quite fun and an integral part of our marriage. But my dwindling desire, coupled with his dwindling ability to have an erection, was just looking like disaster, and we were both feeling very sad about it.
We were also bewildered wondering what we could do."
Betty's gynecologist recommended that she seek treatment at The Center.
I had some sessions with Bat Sheva and Melissa, and started daily application of testosterone. Bat Sheva also recommended using the vibrator. I felt very self-conscious about using that. Even though I had used a vibrator off and on in the past, they were ineffective and I wasn't quite sure how to incorporate this to the fullest. My husband and I worked on it together and now we have incorporated it into our lovemaking. Things are starting to turn around," Betty says.
The libido isn't what it was when I was a young person, but using the testosterone cream has created a great deal of interest in sex, even fantasies beginning to flow back into the memory bank, whereas before they were nonexistent. It's just made it much more fun. I don't approach sexual activity as something to get over with anymore."
Revitalizing sex has given me an enthusiasm for life," Betty says.
Renewing physical closeness with her husband has improved other aspects of their marriage, too.
It helps me appreciate and treasure my husband so much more," she says. We're both retired and in and around the house a lot. I have to sort of stand on my head to get him to acknowledge that I'm around. Because I know that there is going to be light at the end of the tunnel, I can tolerate that. If there were no fun to look forward to, oh my God I would throw him out of the house!"
But instead, she says, we do fun things together, we go bicycle riding together, we play a lot of bridge together, we take trips whenever we can afford it. We have a good time. I look forward to playing with him, outside and inside the house!
Since Betty's libido has been restored, lovemaking has become more frequent now. It's part of life I didn't want to go without. I thought it was all over, dead and gone. It's so refreshing to know that it's not."
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