I can't seem to have an orgasm with intercourse. Why not?

Only 30% of women achieve orgasm through intercourse. In many women the position and stimulation of the clitoris, during sexual intercourse is not conducive to orgasm and there is no way that intercourse alone can produce an orgasm. A good analogy might be to consider attempting to bring a man to orgasm by rubbing his testicles only. It is unlikely that without proper stimulation of the penis he will reach orgasm and it is unlikely that without proper stimulation of your clitoris you will reach orgasm.

If you fall into this category, you need to realize that you are not anorgasmic, merely typical, and there are many alternatives for you: your partner can stimulate you manually either during, prior to, or after intercourse, you can stimulate yourself manually during intercourse, or you can try out alternatives to your love-making including oral sex or manual stimulation or a vibrator. There is a device available that functions as a small vibrator specifically meant for use during intercourse. Generally a combination and variation of the above methods allow couples to have intercourse and also allows the woman to have the release of an orgasm.

Women's questions about orgasm

I've never been able to have an orgasm. Why not? Is there anything I can do?

I used to be able to have an orgasm but I can't seem to anymore. Why not? Is there anything I can do?
My orgasms are not as intense as they used to be. Why is that?

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