Did you know that September is "Menopause Month?" Okay, so honestly I find some of these "awareness months" hokey. And this is no exception. But it does seem like a good opportunity to spend some time talking about menopause and the impact it can have on your sex life.
Here are the two most important messages for women about sex and menopause:
Women who have sexual problems during menopause typically experience them in one of the following categories:
Women entering menopause often face major life-changes: If you are married with children, this may be the time when your kids are leaving the house and you and your husband may be alone together for the first time in ages. If you work outside the home, you may now feel bored or tired of your job, you may yearn for new experiences in your work life but feel stuck in your current situation. You may suddenly be caring for aging parents, dealing with your own or your spouse's health issues, and in general, examining your finances as you look toward retirement. Overall, you are probably at a point in your life where you are re-examining your life and your priorities. All of these factors can have a huge impact on your feelings about yourself and your sex life.
And as if all that weren't enough, then there are all those physical and physiological changes you face as your hormonal make-up shifts with age. And, for some women, menopausal hormonal changes can wreak havoc on body and mind.
Does any of this sound familiar?
The good news is: You are not crazy. And many, if not all, of these symptoms can now be treated medically so you and your relationship do not need to suffer.
Here's my advice: If you are feeling a little "off," during peri-menopause or menopause, stick it out for a few months and see if things re-align themselves. Sometimes, for some women, they do. If the problems persist for more than two-to-three months, or if the problems don't feel manageable, seek help from a medical professional.
You know that at the Center we think sex is important and can have a profound influence on our lives and relationships. And, as usual, my message is don't give up until you get the help you need. It's available. You just have to find it.
After all, if your partner is lusting after your menopausal mind and body, how bad can things really be?
The Medical Center for Female Sexuality (MCFS) is one of the only treatment centers of its kind in the country. Using unique treatment programs, the MCFS has helped hundreds of women attain the wonderful feeling about themselves and their partners that comes with having a great sex life.
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