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Probably the most common complaint we see at the Center is low desire. And no, honestly, it's not all 50+ year-olds complaining that their libido has taken a nose dive. We hear it from many women in their 30's and 40's, and we also see young women who feel that they have never really had much desire at all.

As a society we don't place enough importance on a woman's level of desire. The truth is it's not just about sex. When a woman's desire is low it often makes her feel sluggish and less alive.

When her desire is low it makes it hard for her to connect with her partner in a physical way and that can have many effects that ripple throughout the relationship.

It can have significant ramifications on her partner's feeling about her, about himself and his own desirability. It can significantly affect her feelings about her role in the relationship as well as the overall tone of the relationship itself.

Many women have said some version of the following:

"When I find his socks thrown on the floor... and we've just had great sex, I smile, scoop them up and dump them in the hamper. But when I find his socks thrown on the floor... and we've haven't had sex in a long time, I want to strangle him with them."

We live in a busy world and many of us lead complicated lives. That means most of us will have stress and anxiety, less-than-perfect relationships, and almost never enough time to relax and regroup.

This alone can wreak havoc on a woman's libido. Some of that we can control and some of that we can't. A healthy libido can usually weather the normal ups and downs of a crazy life and bounce back after a relatively short "shut-down."

But there are more complex reasons a woman suffers from a low libido. It can be influenced by physiological conditions in our bodies: hormone levels, vitamin deficiencies and neurotransmitter health.

It can be a symptom of depression. It can hint at thyroid problems or anemia. The bottom line is, for so many reasons, a low libido should be taken seriously and examined appropriately.

A smart approach to helping a woman reclaim her libido is to evaluate and address the issues on a number of different fronts. A physical work-up which allows a woman to address any physical deficiencies can be a powerful first step in helping to revive the libido.

And we have found that once the libido is stirred, even a little bit, it's easier for a woman to look at other emotional issues or behavioral solutions. And then, she's usually on her way.

Here's my message for this month: you don't have to live with low sexual desire if you don't want to - and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise!