I first noticed a decrease in my libido starting about 12 years ago. At the time I was single so it didn't matter. About 9 years ago I met my husband and by then the decrease in my sex drive was getting progressively worse. As of about 4 years ago, I had absolutely no interest whatsoever in sex and didn’t have any kind of sexual desire. I believed it had to do with changes in my hormones.
This caused a lot of problems and put a big strain on my marriage. My husband thought that I was not attracted to him and that I did not desire him. He was very frustrated and took it very personal and said I didn't care about his needs. He would want me to wear sexy clothes and watch sex movies which I really hated. I didn't have problems having an orgasm but the thought of having sex and getting started was not very pleasant.
On several occasions I had mentioned my lack of sex drive to doctors but all I got was talk about the many things that could affect a women's sex drive such as stress, resentment towards your partner and what have you. I also received treatment from a gynocologist but she was not able to safely prescribe the proper dose of testosterone. I found out about MCFS from a sex therapist that I went to as a last resort.
I was a bit apprehensive about calling MCFS since I wasn't sure what to expect or how I would feel discussing such a personal matter with someone else. It has been the best thing that I have done. On my first appointment I met with Bat Sheva and Melissa. They explained how the whole process worked, took a sexual history, gave me a physical exam and drew blood. I felt very comfortable talking with them and they made me feel at ease. It was like sitting down talking with a girlfriend. On my follow-up visit a few weeks later, they told me that my testosterone level was very low. I was prescribed a testosterone gel to put on my thighs and a low dose antidepressant.
About three weeks after I started the treatment, it was as if my body woke up. My body started tingling, I was having sexual fantasies and wanted very much to have sex with my husband. Having sex is wonderful now and I feel great. Now I'm constantly looking for and wearing sexy clothes to turn on my husband and he's just ecstatic over the change in my sexual libido. I even initiate sex a good part of the time and look forward to our sexual encounters. I find that I'm a lot more affectionate towards him and the relationship is a whole lot better.
I meet with Bat Sheva and Melissa every couple of months to discuss how things are going and so that they can monitor my testosterone level. I wish I had known about them a lot sooner. There is nothing about the process that is uncomfortable or unpleasant and there is so much to be gained from seeking help from MCFS. I feel like a normal woman again. My husband and I are both very happy and thankful for MCFS. It is good to know that there is help out there.
57 Years Old
Women share their experiences with sexual dysfunction, their search for answers, the challenges encountered along the way, and how they found solutions to a better sex life.