Posts Tagged ‘Vaginal reconstructive surgery’

The Perfect Vagina — Why is genital cosmetic surgery suddenly so popular?

Thursday, May 19th, 2011 by Stephen Snyder, MD

 

Why are more women choosing to have genital cosmetic surgery?

After viewing a recent Channel 4 film “The Perfect Vagina,” by British Documentary Director and Producer Heather Leach, I understood why.

It’s the explosion in the last decade of print and online close-up images of young women with, in the words of the film, “hairless, neat, pink, tucked-in” genitals.   That and the fact that young women in everyday life are increasingly expected to go hairless as well.

Young women’s pubic hair has been steadily disappearing over the past decade.  In a recent study by sex researcher Dr Debra Herbenick, 58.6% of young women sampled reported going hairless at least some of the time.

Dr Herbenick tells me that among the college students she talks to, most do it by shaving.   Their slightly older counterparts in my Manhattan sex therapy office tend to do it by waxing.   It’s something many young men these days expect a woman to take care of.

Tight, tucked, and hairless

In an earlier article, “Contemporary Sexuality and the Brazilian Wax,” I worried that this new standard of genital beauty was bad news for young women, who hardly needed another item on  their list of grooming rituals.   Or another part of their bodies to obsess about.

As the film “The Perfect Vagina” shows, many of today’s newly-waxed young women don’t find their hairless vulvas very attractive.  Especially the inner lips of the vulva, the so-called labia minora.  These inner parts often protrude more than the “tucked-in” bits of porn stars – whose genitals for some reason have become the new standard.

When I came of age in the 1970’s, only the most sexually hyper individuals ever looked at the kind of pornography that featured labial close-ups.   And few women worried about the appearance of their labia minora — because  the labia  were hidden by hair and barely visible.

On today’s bare genitals, though, large labia minora stand out.   So after the wax salon, sometimes the next trip for a modern young woman is to the surgeon’s office — to cut large labia down to porn-star size.

It doesn’t take a genius to grasp the magnitude of the physical and emotional suffering involved.  To say nothing of the waste of time and money.

The grand tour

In “The Perfect Vagina,”  host Lisa Rogers visits the principal stations of the modern woman’s genital pilgrimage — first the Brazilian wax salon, then the vulvar surgical suite.   Both are places where a woman can expect significant physical pain.

In Part 1 of the film, Rogers introduces us to Rosie —  a 21 year old British woman with prominent labia minora.   It’s something that wouldn’t have ever been an issue a few decades ago.

But now such a thing does get noticed – and in a big way.   So Rosie decides to end her suffering by losing an inch or so off her inner lips.

In the film, we accompany Rosie into surgery, where she is gowned and draped.  We watch Rosie wince from the pain of having Novocaine injected into her labia.

After the numbing medication takes effect, we see Rosie’s inner lips efficiently trimmed down to porn-star size.   It’s not for the faint of heart.

What is to be done?

After witnessing Rosie’s operation, Rogers issues a challenge to the viewing public:  ”Surely, girls,” she say, “there must be another way.”

The remaining parts of “The Perfect Vagina” include explorations of some of these other ways.  There  is a visit to a women’s group that fosters psychological healing through vulvar show-and-tell.

There are several visits to the workshop of British sculptor Jamie McCartney — whose sculpture is featured above, and who over the past several years has made plaster casts of 400 women’s vulvas.   For many of the women who participated,  the project appeared to be therapeutic as well as artistic.   (The completed work, entitled “The Great Wall of Vagina,” will have its World Premier on  May 6).

For some women, just seeing the film “The Perfect Vagina” itself might be of help.

But if we’re looking for “another way,” shouldn’t we also just encourage women let their pubic hair grow again?

Many women’s labia seem to fit in better in their natural habitat.   A return to genital hair might spare many women a lot of physical pain, not to mention money and worry.

The bigger issue, of course, is pornography.   It can justly be said that in the last decade we’ve entered “The Porn Age.”   In future articles, we’ll discuss some of the myriad ways in which The Porn Age has changed our thinking about sex, and about our bodies and ourselves.

Stay tuned.

Copyright © Stephen Snyder, MD 2011

www.sexualityresource.com New York City

The bad idea bears…vaginal reconstructive surgery

Wednesday, April 2nd, 2008 by Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD

If you have seen the Broadway show Avenue Q (or its equivalent somewhere else) , you’ll get the reference. (It’s a terrific show by the way and I highly recommend it, but it’s very explicit! As a matter of fact my 18 year old son — with whom I’ve had a number of extremely explicit conversations — said, during the play…. let’s just not talk about this afterwards, ‘Okay MOM???’) Anyhow, the play has these two characters “the bad idea bears.” They are cute, cuddly and charming and pop up whenever another character has an idea that they know in their heart of heart is NOT a good idea.

So let’s talk about vaginal reconstructive surgery. It’s getting more popular. It makes me think of the bad ideas bears. It’s a terrible idea.

What is vaginal reconstructive surgery? Pretty much what it sounds like. It is surgery that reconstructs the area in and around the vagina and vulva. Although there are (and they tend to be pretty limited) cases where surgery is really needed in those areas, most often, women elect to have surgery there as “cosmetic” surgery.

WHY????

Well, let’s see…. because women are afraid that their vulva’s and the lips around the vaginal opening look funny. I daresay, most women haven’t seen many vulvas to begin with and if they have they are probably mostly those belonging to porn stars which may be a skewed sample.

Here’s the reality. Vulvas and labial lips (inner and outer) come in all different shapes and sizes. If you want to get a good overview, buy the book Femalia (by Joanie Blank) which is up-close (tastefully done) snapshots of a whole group of real women’s vulvas. If you don’t think you can handle snapshots, get  Sex For One by Betty Dodson or The Guide to Getting It On by Joannides and they have drawings.

 Yours is just fine! Really. I don’t even need to see it to tell you that. I promise.

I have an ob/gyn friend who said that only once in her entire career of looking at labias and vulvas did she do a double take. She saw a vulva that looked so odd to her she needed to keep looking at it to orient herself. Turns out the women had had vaginal reconstructive surgery…. and they had cut the labias off. Now that was weird!

The problem with having surgery is that most often you can’t undo the surgery. You may hate the results and can end up with scarring and pain in a place where you don’t want scarring and pain!!

So do yourself a favor. Take those cute cuddly bad idea bears and steer them far away from the reconstruction of your fabulous vagina. Hey. Maybe take them to a show!