Posts Tagged ‘vaginal intercourse’

Cheers!

Thursday, October 20th, 2011 by Barbara Gross, LMSW

A recent study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine states that, “moderate consumption of alcohol (11-20 drinks a month), through psychological and social disinhibiting effects, may favor sexual activities(for women with no health issues who are between the ages of  18 and 35).”  This article basically states that though excessive drinking at any age can be dangerous, moderate drinking for certain women can in fact, help your sex life.

Of course I do not suggest heavy drinking and many factors can contribute to negative outcomes when an individual drinks alcohol particularly if there are any pre-existing health issues or a family history of substance abuse or addiction. However if none of those conditions exist it seems that consuming a moderate amount of alcohol may make women less inhibited and therefore have more sexual activity and more satisfying sexual experience. “In our study, the moderate drinkers showed a lower BDI (Beck Depression Inventory-which tests for depression, i.e. were less depressed), an increased number of sexual intercourse sessions/per week, and an increased percentage of vaginal orgasms.”

All research must be analyzed carefully, so I have to add that this is a very small study (87 participants). Because of that  it can not be generalized to the  population at large (unless more studies with randomized controls were done), but it is fun to think about the results. Maybe that glass or two of wine might actually make your sex life better!

 

Is longer always better?

Wednesday, June 4th, 2008 by Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD

No. No. No. I’m not doing another harangue on penis length, I promise. This has to do with time. There seems to be a prevalent myth out there that women always want men who can last longer. HMMMMM… let’s see. The average time that a penis usually spends in a vagina before ejaculating is 3-5 minutes. Generally as men get older they can last longer. Here’s what I hear from patients. Anything up to 10 minutes can be great. After that, their vagina’s can get irritated. Again, I am talking the norm. Sure there are women out there who want to go at it for 30 minutes. Sure there are women who get irritated after 1 minute (although, it that’s you, sweetie, you might want to ask your doctor for help… that should be treatable if it’s a problem for you.) However, really and truly, most women do not want a penis in their vagina for 30 minutes. It doesn’t feel good. Now, that doesn’t mean that sex has to be over in 10 minutes… if you spend 20 minutes rubbing up against different body parts, having oral sex and using each other’s hands then when the man is good and ready he puts his penis in the vagina, 3-7 minutes should be plenty in there! However, as always, talk – talk-talk. See what your partner wants. Thank goodness we don’t live in “average.”