Posts Tagged ‘talking to children about sex’

When Your Kids are Uncomfortable Talking About Sex

Tuesday, November 8th, 2011 by Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD

I heard a sweet story yesterday and I thought I’d share it about a mother who has been trying to talk to her 10 year-old daughter about sex. Although she feels that her daughter listens, she had not been getting much feedback or questions. She discovered that, while her daughter feels too awkward and uncomfortable to talk to her mother about sex, she is comfortable typing out her questions.

So she and her mother have come to the following modus operandi. Whenever she has a sex questions she types it out on the computer and lets her mother know there is a question waiting for her. When they are having a conversation, even in the middle of the conversation, she will run to the computer and type out questions.

I thought it was a great idea, especially for kids who are still having trouble saying words like “penis” and “vagina” out loud. What I think is even greater is that this mother and daughter worked out a solution that works well by tailoring a way to have the conversation that was comfortable to them both.

10 Years is a Long Time; For Viagra and for a 9 year old

Friday, March 28th, 2008 by Michael A. Werner MD

Viagra turns 10 on March 29.  (Which also happens to be my anniversary.)  It has dramatically changed the landscape of sex in this country and throughout the world.  It has been a great thing!  When I started my practice, it was so difficult for men to come in and talk about sexual problems.  It is still not so easy, but what a difference.

Ten years ago, when Viagra was approved, I was interviewed many places (as I have been, to my surprise, for the 10th “Anniversary”.)  My oldest son was nine at that time.  He watched one of my TV clips with excitement.  My wife asked him, “Do you understand what Dad is talking about?”  He nodded emphatically yes.  “Are you going to tell your friends?”  He nodded emphatically no.

 Now, sons are aged 19,17,15, and 13.  When I was on national radio, their friends and their friends’s parents texted them on their cell phones to congratulate them.  Everyone wants me to come in and talk at the school.

10 years is a long time.  I am grateful to Viagra for many of the changes.

Michael Werner