Overweight women should know that your oral contraceptive may take longer to become effective. A new study recently published in the Journal of Contraception found that oral contraceptives for woman who are overweight can take twice as long to become effective. Most drug tests are not tested on people who are obese and so body size is often ignored. The study which was conducted by scientists from Colorado, Oregon and Southern California found that it took approximately 10 days for oral contraceptives to be effective in obese women versus 5 days for women with a Body Mass Index less than 35. This is something to be aware of and talk to your physician about….
Posts Tagged ‘sex therapy’
Yet another reason for women to be fit…
Sunday, July 26th, 2009 by Dr. Neil CannonIf all roads lead to Rome, in sex therapy all roads lead to shame…
Saturday, February 28th, 2009 by Dr. Neil CannonGuilt is feeling bad for what we did, i.e., “I had unprotected sex.” Shame is feeling bad for who we are, i.e., “I’m a slut.” Shame is that inner voice that says, “I’m not good enough.” For many people shame becomes the core belief of who we are and eats away at the deepest part of our soul. The roots of shame are often found in childhood events, a rigid religious upbringing, or traumatic events like rape. For people who have been abused or traumatized there are often feelings of self blame, i.e., “It’s my fault. I’m no good or I wouldn’t have been treated so badly.” There is no cookie cutter formula for treating shame but overcoming it is possible and life changing. If you feel bad about who you are, today might be a good day to start the healing process. There is always hope, potential and possibility. Sometimes we just need a little help to see the bright light shining at the end of the tunnel. www.doctorcannon.com
Green is sexy…
Wednesday, January 14th, 2009 by Dr. Neil Cannon
Do you recycle? Well now you can recycle your used dildos and vibrators and get paid $10. The next time you have an old sex toy simply send it to the sex toy recycling program and they will give you a $10 gift certificate from the sex toy retailer, Dreamscapes, (Yes, you need to clean it first!). For more information go to http://recycleyoursextoy.com. Not only is green sexy, but now it pays to be green! www.doctorcannon.com
Sexy New Year's Resolutions…
Friday, January 2nd, 2009 by Dr. Neil CannonWhen it comes to New Year’s Resolutions we often resolve to lose weight, quit smoking and make more money. Those are all good, but how about a resolution for better sex? Here are three ways to improve your sex life and you can start today. 1) Make your relationship a priority. It’s easy to forget about each other when we are caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Sometimes we simply have to put pleasure first. 2) Be strategic about sex. Many couples think sex has to be spontaneous because that’s how it is in the movies. In real life it doesn’t work that way for most people. We make plans to golf, shop, ski and take the kids to soccer. Start making plans to be sexual and I guarantee you’ll have more sex. 3) Try something new. Every couple has a sexual pattern. Figure out what yours’ is. This is a great exercise for couples that in and of itself can lead to better sex. Once you have figured out your sexual pattern, co-create hot new experiences that are outside the box (no pun intended).
Change is the top word for 2009 and change starts with desire. My wish for you is to create the changes you want so you can live the sexy life you deserve. www.doctorcannon.com
Sexy Holiday Traditions…
Wednesday, December 24th, 2008 by Dr. Neil CannonIf you don’t already have a sexy holiday tradition now is a great time to start. I have one male client who likes nothing more than to see his wife topless so every year on Christmas Eve she comes to bed wearing nothing but the bottom half of a holiday costume. One year it was Santa’s pants, boots and belt. Another year it was green elf pants. The gesture inevitably leads to passionate love making of course. I have another couple that starts every Christmas morning by taking turns giving each other the gift of oral sex. What a great way to save money on wrapping paper! The opportunities are endless and the possibilities are unlimited. A magical life of sex and intimacy is only limited by our imagination and commitment to make sex a priority. www.doctorcannon.com
Better sex with Santa…
Friday, December 12th, 2008 by Dr. Neil CannonThe key to enhancing sex and intimacy during the holidays is twofold. The first step is to create the intention of bringing the joy of the season into the bedroom. A little mistletoe on the top of the headboard can act as a loving reminder. The second step is to identify holiday landmines and create a plan to minimize them. The most common holiday stressors for couples are money, family, over-indulgence and over-committing. So if you want to have better sex with Mr. or Mrs. Claus, avoid stepping in the reindeer dung by having a conversation with your partner about what would make this holiday season special and sexy for both of you. www.doctorcannon.com
Thanksgiving…
Wednesday, November 19th, 2008 by Dr. Neil CannonAs Thanksgiving approaches a group of us were talking about what we are most thankful for professionally. Here is my response…
I am thankful for the opportunity to help people heal and to help people grow. I am thankful for the ability to help people feel normal. I am thankful for the ability to help people embrace their sexual fantasies, desires, behaviors, orientation and identity. I am thankful when I can help somebody let go of shame. I am thankful for the opportunity to help people find hope when things seem hopeless. I am thankful when I can help a couple solve their problems and remain a family. I am thankful for the opportunity to positively touch lives every day. I am thankful that I have the most beautifully fulfilling job on earth and get paid to do something I love. www.doctorcannon.com
Selecting the right therapist for you…
Saturday, November 8th, 2008 by Dr. Neil CannonI frequently get calls from friends and family wanting to know what they should look for when selecting a therapist. My advice: In this age of specialization you should be able to select a therapist who has expertise in your very specific area of concern. Second, studies show that up to 45% of the effectiveness of therapy depends on how well you connect with your therapist. Is their personality compatible with your personality? Are they actively involved in helping you create solutions or do they simply nod and sigh? Either approach is okay depending on your style, however if you are conscious of what you want you are upping your odds for success. Third, I tell my friends to select a therapist that is active in the professional community. None of us has all the answers, but the best therapists are tapped into a broader network of experts we can consult with or refer you to. Lastly, the pink elephant in the room is often economics. It is important that you select a therapist whose fees are within your budget. If paying with a credit card or insurance is important to you, then be sure to ask about it. And by the way, the right therapist who is more expensive per hour may still turn out to be less expensive, if he or she can help you achieve your goals quickly. At the end of the day, remember one thing, the really good therapists are only concerned with one thing and that is that you get the best possible care. www.doctorcannon.com
The New Rules of Marriage…
Wednesday, October 22nd, 2008 by Dr. Neil CannonFor a long and happy marriage, compromise can cause as much pain as pleasure. Compromise by couples is a noble effort that is unfortunately often fraught with problems that can lead to resentment. The book, “The New Rules of Marriage” says it nicely. “No matter how hard you may try to take the high road, the discrepancy between the marriage you want and the one you’ve got that gnaws away at you like a slow-growing cancer. When you back away from your real needs, when you stop telling the truth – to your partner and yourself – you shut down…when you shut down the truth, you shut down yourself – your generosity, your sexuality, and your vitality.” Although it is not always easy, I encourage couples to compromise with caution and communicate deeply about their respective needs, wants, desires and dreams.
More on lubes…
Saturday, October 4th, 2008 by Dr. Neil CannonI agree completely with Bat Sheva. It is also good to know that water based lubes are the safest. If your lube has ingredients that sound like they might be used in an automobile engine they probably aren’t very compatable with your vagina. Even KY has an ingredient that can be problematic for certain women. Arkadia is a good source for water based lubes. http://www.myarkadia
