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Holiday Sex: It’s good for you!

Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 18:11:48 +0000

Round and around we go arguing whether having a lot of sex makes you healthier or being healthier make you have more sex. As usual I’m going to argue that it’s a little bit of both! If you feel healthy and fit (no matter your age or weight) you’ll be likely to have better sex. And having more frequent and better sex has proven to be beneficial in so many ways. You know how it is, no matter how thin or “in shape” you are, if you just plowed your way through a bag of chips and washed it down with soda, you probably will not feel sexy – (you may feel bloated and greasy, but probably not sexy.) On the other hand if you’ve just come from a day or two of eating well and getting some exercise, even if you haven’t fulfilled your fitness goals, you probably will feel healthy and much more interested in a romp with your partner. So if you’re at a holiday party this week, see if it helps to ask yourself if you’d rather eat that… whatever it is… or you’d rather feel like peeling off your clothes and going for it when you get home. Click here to read more. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/34514075/ns/health-sexual_health/

And happy holidays.

And the Survey Says……Sex!

Ilene Rosenthal, Marketing — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 10:32:20 +0000

Why is it that we need a survey to prove that women are interested in sex? And when we get the data, why is everyone so surprised at the results??

A new online survey asked 500 women aged 35 to 49 about their interest in sex, and whaddaya know, 76% of women are “interested in maintaining a healthy sex life” and about 50% declare they “initiate sex with their partner.”

Among respondants, 35% say sex improves with age and experience, and half of the women surveyed said that they have sex once a week or more.

It’s not entirely surprising that this study is getting press. The ‘middle aged’ woman who’s the CEO of a fragmented and unpredictable corporation called her family may be perceived as too busy, exhausted, or just generally distracted to be interested in intimacy.

There’s no arguing: the business of feeding, clothing and educating her children while cooking, cleaning and holding down a job is unimaginable sometimes. But we also know from the women who come to the Center that a robust sex life can be an antidote to all that work; it can help let a little air out of the balloon of our full life and, like a sigh, allow us to enjoy ourselves, and the partners we love.

In fact, the longer we are with our partners, the more comfortable we may feel, and the more we may be ok with asking for some sexual attention when we need it.

Of course, we see many women who are not part of the 50% that have sex once a week, and who do not initiate sex, either because they don’t feel the desire, or because it hurts to have sex. Well, that’s our work. Data like this is an inspiration, even if it’s not a surprise.

The survey was sponsored by Teva Women’s Health, the manufacturer of the ParaGard Intrauterine Copper Contraceptive.

Transexuality: Is our sexuality hard wired?

Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 13:16:12 +0000

There is always so much debate on whether or not our sexual identity is “nature” or “nurture.” As in most cases, there’s probably an awful lot of of both but this article certainly suggests that a predilection to ”transexuality, ” that is, feeling as though your are a certain sex in the wrong body may be hard wired into our system. Thanks to Felix from The Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality for bringing this to my attention!

Why not talking about sex is not so good…

Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD — Thu, 01 May 2008 21:04:18 +0000

The most interesting thing about the fact that people are unwilling to talk about sex is that it distorts our view. With no basis for comparison, we assume that what we do is “normal,” anyone who does stuff that’s more adventurous is “kinky” and anyone who isn’t comfortable with what we do is “repressed.” Can you imagine if we made that same assumption about eating because no one knew, how, when, where or what anyone else ate? The truth is that if everyone was more comfortable talking about sex what you’d realize pretty quickly is that there is a wide, wide range of sexual activities and pretty much everyone has some company for their likes and preferences. So go ahead. Ask your best friend about her sex life. You’d be surprised what you learn!

Viagra Celebrates 10 Years

Ilene Rosenthal, Marketing — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 12:50:38 +0000

Viagra has been around for 10 years. The NY Daily News did a great article today on the anniversary of Viagra. In the article, the reporter quoted two of the experts from our blog: Michael A. Werner, MD, FACS , a specialist in sexual dysfunction and Bat Sheva Marcus, LMSW, MPH, PhD, clinical director of The Medical Center for Female Sexuality.