Better Sex Blog » partners and vibrators http://www.centerforfemalesexuality.com/blog Straight Talk to Enhance Your Sex Life Wed, 08 Feb 2012 12:37:37 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 30% of Women orgasm through vaginal penetration http://www.centerforfemalesexuality.com/blog/2009/12/15/30-of-women-orgasm-through-vaginal-penetration/ http://www.centerforfemalesexuality.com/blog/2009/12/15/30-of-women-orgasm-through-vaginal-penetration/#comments Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:14:17 +0000 Shannon Bertha, ACS, PhD http://www.centerforfemalesexuality.com/blog/?p=516 Although the following statistic is located on our webpage, women are still surprised to learn that only 30% of women will orgasm through vaginal penetration.  That means almost 70% of women do not orgasm through intercourse.  At times, women and their partners may feel like they are doing something wrong, or that something is wrong with them.  Orgasms can be attained through a number of sexual behaviors.  Many women often need some form of clitoral stimulation in order to achieve orgasm but unfortunately, intercourse does not always provide direct stimulation to the clitoris.  Some women will need to stimulate their own clitoris, or have a partner stimulate it for them, or use a vibrator during intercourse.  So, there isn’t anything wrong, you may just need more focus on your clitoris.  Finding a smaller vibrator that can be used with a partner may be useful in trying to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse.

]]> http://www.centerforfemalesexuality.com/blog/2009/12/15/30-of-women-orgasm-through-vaginal-penetration/feed/ 0 Yo partners! http://www.centerforfemalesexuality.com/blog/2008/10/06/yo-partners/ http://www.centerforfemalesexuality.com/blog/2008/10/06/yo-partners/#comments Mon, 06 Oct 2008 23:28:31 +0000 Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD http://bettersexblog.wordpress.com/?p=137 I saw a patient today…. she always makes me smile. She’s 74 and so upbeat and positive. She came in a few months ago complaining that her libido just wasn’t what it used to be, orgasms were getting harder to achieve and just weaker. We worked with her on some hormone treatments and she is, to all of our delight, doing GREAT. But today we also talked about the vibrator we had given her and how much fun she has with it and the great orgasms she’s having with it. During the conversation with me she said something which really resonated. She said she is so grateful to her partner (her husband of 50 some odd years) because he was so supportive of the vibrator. She said if he had acted like there were something wrong with using it, or that there was something wrong with her for liking to use it, she never would have felt comfortable with it. But there he was, all happy as a lark to go along with something that gave her so much pleasure and their sex life is better than ever.

So there’s a lesson to you, all of you partners out there (and at some point everyone is a partner of some sort!) Be supportive. Be open. Be happy to try new things. Don’t be defensive. Don’t be close-minded. Your sex life (and your partner’s) will be the better for it!

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