Posts Tagged ‘low sex drive’

Did you know: the pill neutralizes your sex drive

Thursday, May 20th, 2010 by Ilene Rosenthal, Marketing

Fifty years ago, the birth control pill gave women a freedom that previously eluded them: without fear of unwanted pregnancy, women could engage in romantic or recreational sex with relative control over the prospect of pregnancy.

I’m sure many of us would agree that this was a life-changing development, aligned with the women’s movement and a gift that allowed women to have children when they wanted to, and, yes, have sex when they wanted to, too.

We never imagined that this freedom would come with a side effect that was filled with irony, but a study has recently been released by the Journal of Sexual Medicine that connects serious declines in sex drive with hormonal birth control.

Bat Sheva Marcus, clinical director of the Medical Center for Female Sexuality in New York, had a lot to say about this in a recent article in The Daily Beast, the online newsstory outlet.  Dr. Marcus was interviewed last week and asked to respond to the conclusions drawn in this study of over 1000 women.  Her point of view is based on nearly eleven years in practice, treating women with different kinds of sexual dysfunction, low desire being the more common culprit.

Her response was declarative:  “all hormones are suspect!”  and estimates the pill is a contributing factor in 60 percent of the women she treats for low libido.

Read what real women say in the article and on the MCFS website

Libido flip-flop

Friday, April 9th, 2010 by Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD

This entry was written recently by a patient at MCFS following six months of treatment for low desire.  Her previous entry, written after her second appointment last October, was posted on April 5th.

Last night I kissed my husband’s ear and he did not move. He wasn’t in the mood and I was!

For some people this would be frustrating. For me it was amazing! Finally, our sex life is equal. We have an equal investment in pleasuring each other.  With almost equal interest in sex – it is no longer just about his needs and my succumbing (reluctantly). The mere fact that I was interested did change his mind, and a wonderful evening ensued, but it was a pivotal moment for us.  The last few months have changed our, and my, life. God had given the world the gift of sexuality and pleasure, and it was a gift that I never received, never really understood. I now know that I was missing out on huge piece of the beauty that exists in this world and missing out on a more meaningful and spiritual connection with my husband. I am eternally grateful to the MCFS for helping me find this gift.

Why I’m Not as Crazy as I Thought

Monday, April 5th, 2010 by Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD

The following is a blog entry written by a patient at MCFS.  Later this week we will post another entry by the same patient, reporting on her progress.  This was written in October 2009

For about 14 years now I have been told constantly that things are in my head. Stomach cramps-must be stress, acne- must be stress, extreme exhaustion-stress, canker sores- stress, breathing issues- stress, and most recently, no interest in sex - stress and depression. 

But recentl, for the first time in my life, someone found a real reason something was going wrong.  And I could not be happier. 

My life in general is amazing. I have a loving doting husband, two beautiful children, a wonderful home, and a fine job. And yet, depression, being overweight, exhaustion and a low sex drive have plagued my life. With some strong encouragement from my husband, who is tired of feeling physically and sexually rejected, I went to the Medical Center for Female Sexuality.  And,  for the first time, someone checked my hormone levels. No one before had ever thought to stick a needle in my arm and actually see what was going on in there. They just made me pop pills and sit in front of therapists and talk and talk and talk. None of which did much except put band-aids over the problems and cause me to doubt myself more and more. With each passing day I would feel less competent, less self-confident, and more sure that I was just crazy, that many of the simple pleasures in life were out of my grasp and this was my destiny.

But yesterday that all changed.

Yesterday 2 doctors sat me down and showed me my lab results. My hormones are a mess. My thyroid is inactive and I have almost no testosterone. There is something wrong with me! I cried the whole way home for the office, grateful to God that there is an end in sight.

The journey ahead will be difficult, hormone therapy will be tough and I’m not so excited about the potential side effects. But it will all be worth it.