Ultimately, we must ask ourselves how much reality do we want in our fantasy life and how much fantasy do we want in our real lives?
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Table For Two
The idea of mindfulness, staying present, and creating meaningful moments has exploded, proliferating across many fields. While browsing a home design site, I came upon Sati Tala, which means “a mindful surface”. Tany Jarus, a design student created a new intimate dining table for her final project. It consists of stools and a wooden table …
Continue ReadingJoyce Walder: Trust, intimacy and connection.
We see single women of all ages here at MCFS. I am a huge proponent of on line dating at any age. Often, when I suggest it to women, they will say they feel anxious, insecure, or not ready. I try to encourage them to feel good about themselves and to realize that most men …
Continue ReadingEmotional affairs.
I recently had a friend ask me if I thought an emotional affair was dangerous. She asked me this question because she has been having some difficulty in her marriage and she found herself being drawn to a close family friend. They had a lot of shared history and she felt comfortable talking to him. …
Continue ReadingAttachment theory.
Attachment theory is the best way to understand love and romantic relationships. “Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950′s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: Anxious — people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partners ability to …
Continue ReadingSome aspects of women’s (hetero)sexual desire
Ninth in a series of articles loosely based on the new book A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. Sex and sensibility. Romance literature, according to the authors of A Billion Wicked Thoughts, is the most popular form of fiction in the world. It’s estimated that the total yearly revenues from the …
Continue ReadingNewlywed’s guide to intimacy.
In my work at the Center I frequently see “Torah observant” women who are struggling with sexual and relationship issues in a new marriage. They are from a community where certain rules and rituals must be observed. A new book called The Newlywed’s Guide to Physical Intimacy has just come out by Jennie Rosenfeld, PhD …
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