Posts Tagged ‘better sex’

Should dinner always come first?

Wednesday, August 4th, 2010 by Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD

I’ve been thinking of the very romantic notions we have regarding dinner dates.

The typical order of events is: large, beautiful, (usually quite saucy) romantic meals and then great sex. In a way that makes sense because dinner is seen as the wooing and romancing which is then followed by sex. The problem with this picture is that so many people I know say they have better sex BEFORE they eat. Big dinners make them sluggish and tired, not exactly the two adjectives you’d want to use before the word “sex.”

Some people even go so far as to say that sex is better when they are a little bit hungry. Their senses are attuned and heightened. Now, I’m not suggesting that you starve yourself into great sex… I’m just suggesting that maybe flipping around the order a bit would make sex better.

So, next time you have a hot dinner date, maybe ravage your date BEFORE DINNER, doze for a few minutes and then go indulge your (now much bigger) appetite. Or, to help this fit into our real lives, when your partner gets home from work,  suggest a before-dinner tryst and see what happens!

Holiday Sex: It’s good for you!

Thursday, December 24th, 2009 by Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD

Round and around we go arguing whether having a lot of sex makes you healthier or being healthier make you have more sex.  As usual I’m going to argue that it’s a little bit of both! If you feel healthy and fit (no matter your age or weight) you’ll be likely to have better sex. And having more frequent and better sex has proven to be beneficial in so many ways. You know how it is, no matter how thin or “in shape” you are, if you just plowed your way through a bag of chips and washed it down with soda, you probably will not feel sexy – (you may feel bloated and greasy, but probably not sexy.) On the other hand if you’ve just come from a day or two of eating well and getting some exercise, even if you haven’t fulfilled your fitness goals, you probably will feel healthy and much more interested in a romp with your partner.  So if you’re at a holiday party this week, see if it helps to ask yourself if you’d rather eat that… whatever it is… or you’d rather feel like peeling off your clothes and going for it when you get home. Click here to read more. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/34514075/ns/health-sexual_health/

And happy holidays.