Archive for the ‘sex life’ Category

Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD)

Tuesday, February 7th, 2012 by Tara Ford, R.P.A.

In my opinion, persistent genital arousal disorder is one of the most frustrating syndromes that I’ve faced while practicing at MCFS.  Typically, a patient complaining of PGAD symptoms presents to us after some time of suffering.  Since this syndrome affects each woman differently, a careful history must be taken.  Although more research is being dedicated to this syndrome, standardized treatment protocols do not exist.

Typically, PGAD patients are post menopausal women, however, we have seen patients of all ages.  The most common complaint is of a persistent, torturous feeling of arousal in her genitals that is not relieved by orgasm. The arousal is unsolicited and conscious sexual desire or sexual stimulation is absent. Some patients complain that they feel like their clitoris is constantly engorged and throbbing, other patients complain of constant vaginal contractions.  Some patients experience both symptoms at the same time.  Symptoms typically wax and wane, however, they remain present for most of the day, interfering with their activities of daily living and prevent them from getting restful sleep.

Perhaps the most debilitating aspect of this syndrome is the isolation that our patients experience.  They are usually embarrassed by their condition and understandably are afraid to disclose to others what they are experiencing in fear of being misunderstood or mislabeled as sex-crazed nymphomaniacs.  Unfortunately, this disorder is also grossly misunderstood by the greater medical community.

Although there is no known cure for PGAD, we have been very successful in providing emotional support and a safe place for our patients to express themselves.  Online support groups can be very helpful, but some of our patients have reported feeling hopeless after being on them for a long time.  Our trained therapists keep our patients focused on hope;  our medical providers stay abreast of every published research study and present all treatment options to our patients to help them make an informed decision about their care.

We are hopeful that one day soon PGAD will become a temporary, treatable condition.  We are committed to standing by our patients until that time comes.

All The Single Ladies – Part Three – A New Ism

Thursday, February 2nd, 2012 by Barbara Gross, LMSW

As I wrote about in my previous blog entries, I read a very interesting article by Kate Bolick, who cites Bella DePaulo. DePaulo, a social psychologist, created the term singlism, which is the “stigmatizing of adults who are single [and] includes negative stereotyping of singles and discrimination against singles”.  In her book, Singled Out,  she argues that “the complexities of modern life and the fragility of the institution of marriage have inspired an unprecedented glorification of coupling”. I don’t agree with this conceptually.  I think the primary complaint of my single friends and patients is not that they feel stereotyped, but rather that they feel lonely.

De Paulo feels that singlism is an ism like any other, like racism or sexism, or ageism. In that light, I can see DePaulo’s point that any form of discrimination adds other shades to an already possible painful situation. From my perspective as a  therapist, the aspect of the single experience that interests me most is the opportunity to develop a deeper connection to oneself, and thus to others, whether those connections are romantic or not. In my practice, I have women who have been married all their lives and never had a variety of partners.  I also have women who have had many partners and desire a long-term, monogamous relationship. Either way, one’s connection to oneself is the point from which all intimate relationships spring, so I think that must be nurtured first.  Being single is a great way to start and nurture that relationship with the self.

 

We Would Love to Hear from You!

Tuesday, January 31st, 2012 by Bat Sheva Marcus LMSW MPH PhD

There is nothing I love more than feeling like I’ve helped a woman that came in to see me at the Center.  The struggles of sexual problems, whether it be painful intercourse, lack of desire, difficulty becoming aroused  or so many of the other issues that arise, affect so many areas of a woman’s life. Getting a woman to a place where she can be happy and excited again is such a rewarding feeling!

Sadly, I also know that for every patient that comes in here to find a solution for their problems, there are hundreds if not thousands of women that can’t get here. And I know that there are so many women who have concerns and questions about what is going on with their own sexuality, and would like to hear a better answer than “it’s all in your head”.

We, at The Medical Center for Female Sexuality, would like to invite you to take the time to ask us your questions and our staff will do our best to come up with a helpful answer.  We will take a question a week from those that are emailed to us at info@centerforfemalesexuality.com, and answer it for you right here, on the Center’s blog. We will be sure to keep you anonymous, so you never need to worry about having your personal issues exposed unwillingly.  So please, send us your questions, and we will do our best to answer as many as we can.

So start sending in those questions!

Sex and the Single Lady

Thursday, January 26th, 2012 by Barbara Gross, LMSW