In a recent article in the New York Times entitled “Nothing Is Wrong With Your Sex Drive”, the author gave her opinion on the drug Flibanserin and her take on the history of low desire. My feeling is that this article may do many women a huge disservice. Unfortunately to assume that a woman’s low …
Continue ReadingRestoring connection.
It’s interesting how in areas of our lives where it is understood that there will be difficulty in functioning, there isn’t a paralyzing stigma to get help. If you had a problem with your iPhone, odds are you wouldn’t wait six months to go to an Apple store to talk to an Apple Genius. Perhaps …
Continue ReadingGet the dog off the bed!
Some of our patients love animals. And I get that. But more than once I’ve been in the position of having to convince people to get the dog off of the bed! If you come in to our office trying to improve your sex life, it stands to reason, I’m not going to approve of …
Continue ReadingA quick guide to IUDs.
An intrauterine device (IUD) is a small contraceptive T-shaped device that is inserted into the uterus for an extended period of time. IUDs either contain copper or the hormone levonorgestrel and are the most effective form of reversible birth control. There is one type of copper IUD called ParaGard. ParaGard can remain in the uterus …
Continue ReadingGoogle data on sex.
In this recent article by Seth Stephen Davidovitz he concludes, after analyzing data from Google searches related to sex that, “if we (both men and women) were less insecure about it (sex) we might have more of it.” Yes! This is true. I see it all day long as a therapist who specializes in sex. …
Continue ReadingYou are worth it!
Working with patients coping with all sorts of sexual issues, I frequently hear women talk about themselves in the context of their relationship with a similar formula: My worth as a person informs what I can expect/ask for in a relationship. And since a woman may feel like her self-worth is inferior because of sexual …
Continue ReadingAsexuality and other misunderstood “conditions.”
Once in a while (not all that often) I get someone who wonders if they are asexual. These are people who usually do not experience sexual attraction to anyone (male, female or other) and most notably, feel fine with that. In other words, it’s not like they are feeling sadness or loss about not feeling …
Continue Reading6 things to know about having sex during your period.
I was recently interviewed by Health.com about things to know about having sex during your period. Here is a snippet: Doctors say go for it:“If the patient is comfortable with it, then it’s great to continue having sex throughout the month and not have to take a break,” says Ford. “It’s perfectly natural and safe …
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