How to fall in love.

I love this article in the New York Times about how to fall in love. I love it because it describes exactly what I see day after day in my office. I often see couples in distress when they arrive but slowly with each passing session and week, I see them often start to choose …

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Double-standard, double-trouble.

A man in his late 50’s goes to see a therapist for stress. After sitting through a few sessions, he finally musters up the guts to tell her what’s really bothering him. “So, I’ve noticed that since I turned 50, my libido has slowly disappeared.” The therapist, whether trained in sexual dysfunction or not, will …

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A new way of getting to “yes.”

Yesterday, a patient told me that she and her husband had developed a new way of communicating about sex and I thought it was so clever, I thought I’d pass it along! They have been having some problems with their sex life and, more recently, although things were getting better, her husband was getting fed …

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Go get your freak on.

There is a lot of hype surrounding the release of 50 Shades of Grey and BDSM.  Here is some food for thought from the mouth of Esther Perel, therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. Perel says, “I do believe that the emphasis on egalitarian and respectful sex — purged of any expressions …

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Just want to cuddle?

I was a little perplexed by this recent article in the Wall Street Journal. It seems that a cuddle deficit is sweeping the nation and thus cuddle centers are opening nationwide. I certainly understand both the need and the power of contact. I have seen all the research on the power of touch and the …

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