Happy new year 2015: you come first!

When I first started working at the Center, most of my patients would tell me they waited 2-3 years to make an appointment after learning about us. They would often tell me that they put their sexual health low on the totem pole but after walking through out doors they wished they had come in …

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LinkedUp: A new dating app.

As a sex therapist I spend a lot of time counseling single people about how to find good partners. That’s gotten a lot easier since online dating has radically increased the number of people to choose from. But online dating has its disadvantages. It’s great if you’re just looking for a hookup or casual fling. …

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Let’s talk about sex.

I treat many women with different issues from low desire to painful intercourse. One issue that women seem to struggle a great deal with is feeling insecure or inadequate. This can have a profound impact on one’s sexuality because instead of feeling confident and positive, when these things surface it often shuts a woman down. …

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Time doesn’t heal all wounds.

That’s like SO five years ago. — “Clueless” (1995) But does it FEEL like it was five years ago? (or ten or twenty or fifty…) In my work integrating EMDR (eye movement desensitization reprocessing therapy) with therapy patients, the results repeatedly highlight the reality that time does not heal all wounds. You can have an experience …

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Naked hour.

As usual I got a great idea from one of my patients today. She and her husband have been struggling sexually. He’s had a hard time holding his erection. She’s having terrible pain every time they have intercourse and like so many other couples they are just plain having difficulty finding time for sex. But…a …

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Get your hoochie coochie in order!

My patient came in complaining of pain during intercourse. She had been suffering for a couple of years. Her symptoms started after menopause. Her vagina felt dry and itchy. At first, using a lubricant helped keep the pain at a manageable level but soon thereafter the pain worsened. She had a very healthy sex life …

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The secret female hormone — Part 2.

In the book, The Secret Female Hormone, the author Dr. Maupin, also addresses the fact that testosterone may only be a part of the puzzle. She writes, “Relationships take work; they don’t just happen. Intimacy is much more than just lust or magical thinking. It may start with infatuation but that does not last. When …

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Aging with humor and grace.

I love this cute video on aging with humor and grace. The video is going viral on youtube and the woman who made the video, Donalou Stevens, has been getting countless e-mails from people around the world thanking her for spreading her positive message. Clearly people are feeling validated by the way her style, talent, …

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