“I want you.” Three simple words, but somehow they seem nearly impossible to define. Desire can be very complex and often seems mysterious to us. It appears as a magical equation of attraction mixed with physical attributes, eroticism, passion, simple physical need, or love. And when desire is not there, in its place there is …
Continue ReadingOnline dating — Part 2: My response to online dating in “The New Yorker”: (A little different than Paumgarten.)
Online dating is one of the best things to come out of the explosion of communication and social media ventures. As the number of people you know becomes smaller over time, the number of single friends you have may also become more limited. So with online dating that pool of available single people always remains …
Continue ReadingOnline dating in “The New Yorker.”
The recent article on online dating in The New Yorker by Nick Paumgarten was most interesting for its research. I had never heard about the history of online dating, and I was certainly not aware of the complicated algorithms that underpin the search process. He explained it all in a really interesting and accessible way. …
Continue ReadingNot every woman loves vaginal intercourse best.
Here’s the real deal. Many women love vaginal intercourse. Many women can take it or leave it. Some women love intercourse. They say it makes them feel close to their partner and that it feels amazing. But some women don’t love intercourse. They prefer oral sex, or when their partner uses his hands or vibrator. …
Continue ReadingDoes infidelity keep us together?
In a recent article in the New York Times magazine, writer Mark Oppenheimer poses that maybe infidelity does keep marriages together. The article is pegged to the Weiner, Spitzer and Schwarzenegger scandals. After watching these cases in the media, Oppenheimer wonders if the American relationship to fidelity is really working. He bases much of the …
Continue ReadingSex and The Supreme Court.
Yet once again, in a recent supreme court decision, we see the absurd double standard in America regarding sex vs. violence. Slicing, dicing, and maiming in a video game is protected by free speech laws but nudity? No way! What is wrong with us when shooting a breast is perfectly acceptable (as long as the …
Continue ReadingPersistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD).
Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (PGAD) or Persistent Sexual Arousal Syndrome (PGAS) also known as Restless Genital Syndrome (REGS) is a condition where one feels spontaneous, incessant and uncontrollable genital arousal unrelated to feelings of sexual desire. At the Center we have treated women of all ages with this condition. It was first documented in 2001 …
Continue ReadingThe unconsummated marriage/relationship.
Here is the most important thing to remember: NO ONE NEEDS TO LIVE WITH AN UNCONSUMMATED RELATIONSHIP. EVERYONE CAN BE HELPED! Really and truly. I promise you. So if you are sitting there thinking “I am the worst case ever. I can’t possibly do this, ” I’m here to let you know that it just …
Continue ReadingSexuality and religion.
At the Medical Center for Female Sexuality, I treat a lot of women who come from religious backgrounds. I see people from all kinds of religions and all different levels of religiosity. The thing that strikes me is that many of our world’s religions do not support sex before marriage. Many people have been told …
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