How is one’s sexual identity formed? Is it formed from our parents? Our biology and hormonal makeup? Our friends, or the media, or how we look? How much do our early sexual experiences with a partner, or partners form us? One’s sexual identity is a complex and dynamic entity. Some of us grow up feeling …
Continue ReadingHormones: The base coat paint.
Plain and simple, hormones seem to be the base coat paint for our sexual functioning. They have such a significant impact on who we are and how we react to things that when they are low or missing or if we have too much, nothing really seems to go right. We can get anxious, moody, …
Continue ReadingThe perfect vagina — Why is genital cosmetic surgery suddenly so popular?
Why are more women choosing to have genital cosmetic surgery? After viewing a recent Channel 4 film “The Perfect Vagina,” by British Documentary Director and Producer Heather Leach, I understood why. It’s the explosion in the last decade of print and online close-up images of young women with, in the words of the film, “hairless, …
Continue ReadingTalking to your kids about sex…and laughing about it.
I admit it. I receive many, many jokes, stories and youtube clips from friends, family and patients that deal with sex and how challenging it is to discuss sex with kids and teens. Would you expect otherwise? However, this clip from Julia Sweeney had me laughing out loud. Not only is it funny and wise …
Continue ReadingFinding good pornography.
In the last few months I seem to be the envy of all the men I know. Straight, single, gay or married they all want to hear about why and how I get paid to watch pornography. It is actually a tiny part of what I do but to some it might seem the most …
Continue ReadingBotulinum toxin for vaginismus: “It has the potential to change your life.”
Sometimes we like to share what our patients say about a particular condition and their experience with MCFS. Here’s an inspiring testimonial from a woman who had great success with treating vaginismus with botulinum toxin. I’ve suffered from vaginismus my whole life. I initially hoped it was something that would resolve on its own, but …
Continue ReadingHow to talk to your partner about using a vibrator.
Occasionally, women feel nervous about introducing a vibrator into their relationship. Sometimes their partners express that they don’t feel comfortable with it. This is particularly challenging for our clients who have never had orgasms because they may require additional stimulation which oral or manual stimulation can not provide. In these instances I try to explain to both the woman and …
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