Once upon a time people couldn’t see. They bumped into walls, they had trouble reading, they saw double, they had horrible pain in their eyes and in the worst cases they went blind. This was a big problem and since this was a hundred years ago no one really had good language to use to …
Continue ReadingAn orgasm a day, keeps the doctor away?
We all know the old adage that “an apple a day will keep the doctor away” but did you know that there are health benefits associated with having orgasms? Scientific research is proving that orgasms are not only pleasurable but are good for our health and longevity. So, what are some of the health benefits …
Continue ReadingFighting for sexual freedom.
Fighting for Sexual Freedom I read an article a few weeks ago in the New York Times that has really stayed with me. It is about Eve Ensler’s center for female leadership in the Congo, called City of Joy. I first heard about playwright Eve Ensler, when I read her most well-known play the Vagina …
Continue ReadingThings I hate.
Things I Hate Okay — I think I’m going to start a list of things I hate or that make my blood boil. I figure one of the advantages of having a blog is being able to vent, right? So here’s something I hate. I hate couples therapists who are not comfortable dealing with sex!! You know, it …
Continue ReadingThe chemistry of desire.
In her book, “Why We Love, The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love”, Helen Fisher, talks about the neuroscience of attraction. “Romantic love is associated with elevated levels of Dopamine and/or norepinephrine”. When dopamine is circulating in the brain, “it produces focused attention, as well as fierce energy, concentrated motivation to attain rewards, and feelings …
Continue ReadingThe sunshine vitamin.
You may be surprised to learn that the sun is actually the best source of vitamin D, hence its nickname as the “sunshine vitamin.” People who live in areas that have long winters, with a lot of snow and not much sunshine are most susceptible to vitamin D deficiency. At MCFS, we routinely screen our …
Continue ReadingHealing vaginismus: An inspiring story.
Tonight I met with a very special couple. I obviously can’t give too many details, but I will say that I found the woman inspirational. She has struggled with serious mental illness all her life, and was raised in an incredibly restrictive and dysfunctional family which bordered on the abusive. She lived through one very, …
Continue ReadingDoes long term monogamy kill eroticism?
Esther Perel, in her book, Mating In Captivity, seems to believe that it often does. She writes that in our quest for security and stability we become too close to our partners and we get too comfortable. In that process, she feels that individuals in a couple often stop viewing one another as exciting. She …
Continue ReadingDressing sexy.
There’s always some women’s magazine article encouraging you to wear a sexy negligee or bewitching underwear. It’s a point made often because we are Pavlovian creatures and we do respond to outside stimulus. If we remember having great sex wearing that red satin teddy we wore the year we got engaged, it’s very likely that …
Continue ReadingResources on sex education.
I’m often asked for some suggestions of books to help talk to kids about sex. My wonderful friend, Catherine Dukes, PhD, who is the VP for Education at the Planned Parenthood of Delaware, is always a wealth of knowledge on sex education and resources. She suggested the following link, http://answer.rutgers.edu/page/books, and I thought it was great …
Continue Reading