What’s the secret to making your love a lasting one? What’s the secret to keeping sexual passion alive? There’s no one best answer, and every couple is different. But many sex therapists, myself included, talk about something called “differentiation” as a key factor. Differentation means being able to take care of yourself, as a separate …
Continue ReadingGreen sex toys? Well, eco-friendly anyway.
Does anyone else have a hard time reading all the magazines that get delivered each week or month? It’s crushing, sometimes. But before I throw it all away I try to peruse headlines just so I’m not left speechless at an upcoming cocktail party. Here’s where that pays off: In Time Out New York, a …
Continue ReadingThe estrogen conversation.
OK, gal pals. You know, I’m not a doctor. So this is not a recommendation. But I am in a tizzy over the recent article from the NY Times Magazine on April 18, 2010 on estrogen replacement in perimenopausal or early menopausal women. The article is called The Estrogen Dilemma, written by Cynthia Gorley. The …
Continue ReadingHow long is too long: the average time for intercourse.
Okay ladies (and the men who may be looking over their shoulder.) The average time for intercourse is 3-5 minutes. So if your partner is thrusting inside of you for 25 minutes and your vagina hurts or gets sore, there is nothing wrong with your vagina. There is something wrong with your timing! Now…lets respond …
Continue ReadingA primer on sexual arousal.
Arousal (a-ROUS- al): The normal change from a non-sexual to a sexual state of body and mind. The secrets of good sexual arousal are hidden in plain sight. They’re obvious, once you know what you’re looking for. But so many couples end up losing their bearings in this area, that a good general introduction to …
Continue Reading“Sex and the City” sparks interesting commentary — if nothing else — among reviewers.
OK, so by now you’ve all read the reviews of SATC2 and, sadly, it has become the punching bag of movie critics around the world. But this piece from www.womenandhollywood.com is fascinating in its review of, well, the reviewers. Melissa Silverstein writes that the movie’s shortcomings have served as a conduit for a “pent up …
Continue ReadingSexual gridlock.
Sexual dysfunction is a complicated problem and often it isn’t one thing – or one person’s issue – that is causing it. If the problem goes on long enough, often it begins to affect other issues in the relationship. I notice that women often take on this problem as their own, “It’s my fault” or …
Continue ReadingIn other sexological news…”Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” is repealed.
Today the House of Representatives repealed the United States military policy, “Don’t ask, Don’t tell” which states the U.S. cannot ask the sexual orientation of its military personnel, and they in turn are not required to disclose this. Repealing this policy is not a revolutionary idea. In fact, of the 26 military forces that make …
Continue ReadingOn trusting yourself.
We saw two patients in two weeks who had severe vaginal pain. In both cases the pain started 3-6 months after starting a new form of birth control pill. In both cases the patient felt that it was related to the birth control pill and asked their prescribing physician about it. In both cases they …
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