Smart kids and sex.

We have every excuse in the book why we don’t talk to our children about sex. A favorite one is: “they are not ready.” I think we really like to believe that our children are innocent and can’t handle information on sex. That is just not true and study after study suggests that the more …

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Desire and depression.

Sometimes, when women come into the center with low desire we talk to them about anti=depressants. The reaction isn’t always good: “You think I’m depressed? I’mhere to talk about my lack of sex drive!” Life situations and hormones can play a role in depression. Serotonin, the hormone normally associated with depression, isn’t the only culprit. …

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From the sex counselors point of view…

Often people will ask me how I got into this field and why I do what I do. First, let me explain what I do. I work with women who have sexual dysfunction and help to treat from a behavioral and medical standpoint. These issues range from low desire, difficulty with arousal and lubrication, difficulty …

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Teaching kids about sex.

There is so much controversy about how to teach kids about sex. In general I’m a proponent of “the more you know, the more prepared you are and the better choices you can make.” Recently a new curriculum came out that was touted as “abstinence only.” That tends to be a major red flag for …

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Apology letter to a vibrator.

Dear Vibrator, I am so sorry. I placed you in a drawer months ago and have not sought you out since. Please understand, though I enjoyed you, I got nervous that this may be the only way I can orgasm. My orgasms with you were intense and powerful and would occur like clock-work 10 minutes …

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