Recently there was an article in the Times on Line talking about how marriages with good sex tend to be happier marriages. This really just confirmed what so many of us in the field already know: sex affects a marriage – big time. So, does good sex improve a marriage or does a better marriage encourage a good sex life? The answer we see every day in our center is “both.”
The idea that sex creates greater intimacy sometimes gets lost in our society which seems to have decided that the the only way it “should” work is the other way… by intimacy encouraging sex. As a result so many times couples get stuck in a complicated tangle of “working out issues,” or “workimg on their communication” and that can take years. Sometimes it helps. Sometimes it doesn’t. Maybe we should be more open to seeig if there is a behavioral answer or a physiological answer that can be addressed more easily and effectively . When you get the cycle moving in a positive direction, that is when you help a couple move back into the bedroom, often that can begin to heal a marriage and put it back on track. Often what follows can be more intimacy, better communication.
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Good question…I believe its a cycle, and it can work both ways. More sex leads to a better marriage, which in turn leads to more sex…and vice versa
Check out the blog I wrote yesterday on this topic, let me know what you think:
“Seperating Fact from Fiction: What techniques REALLY work to overcome Premature Ejaculation”
Ah, another delightful post and another way to ask the chicken/egg question! I especially appreciate that you point out the stereotype, that the sex will improve when we improve the relationship or the intimacy FIRST. But why not let sex be the road to better communication? It’s a fun road!