Choosing the right vibrator.

Choosing the right vibrator can be intimidating. Where can I purchase one? Do I have to go into a sex toy shop? What if someone I know sees me there?! I’m not even sure what I want. First off, if you’re reading this then you’ve already decided to try a vibrator. Bravo for you! Either …

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On scheduling sex — when you have kids.

Often times I’ll tell patients with children that they need to schedule specific times for sex. They will look at me quizzically, not quite getting what I am suggesting. “Good sex” in our society is so often synonymous with “spontaneous sex,” that to suggest scheduling sex, is almost like suggesting sex with your clothes on. …

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The importance of vacations.

My mother was my first “sex educator” and spoke to me openly about sex, love, relationships and intimacy. When I started progressing in my academic career, my father became more relaxed and also would share words of wisdom about relationships. One of the many things that stuck in my head from them was the importance …

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I’ll take sexual fantasy please for 300…

Sexual fantasies are: (A) Silly (B) A waste of time (C) An important component to sexual desire, arousal and orgasm. If you said “C” you are correct! Sexual fantasy can be an important part of what drives our desire and our response. Fantasies can be anything you desire. Maybe you are imagining a setting like …

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Sexting — for adults.

Recently, there has been a lot of negative attention on “Sexting”. Sexting, is sending sexually suggestive text messages via phone. These text may come in the form of written words, or sexual images. This hot topic has been discussed in main stream media because some teenagers have been sending naked images to friends or sexual …

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