Parenting & divorce…

All Pro NFL tough guy, Brian Urlacher is being accused of dressing his three year old son in Cinderella diapers and painting the boy’s toe nails blue, the team color of the linebacker’s Chicago Bears. The accuser is the boy’s mother, Tyna Robertson with whom Urlacher is in a child custody battle. Robertson is complaining that …

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Is the economy wrecking your sex life?

These days, though people are hopeful about the future, there is a sense of nervousness about what is going to happen next. Another bail out? More stocks crashing? More companies letting go of employees? People are feeling the squeeze and with the holidays coming up, people will feel it more. Our sex lives suffer during …

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Another tip to avoid semen.

To add to a previous post of mine, if you are trying to avoid swallowing the semen of your partner, you may want to try this. When he feels ready and communicates that to you, continue to lick, kiss, stroke, etc. the shaft and testicles. To quote from a favorite movie of mine, “Mind the …

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Thanksgiving…

I am thankful for the opportunity to help people heal and to help people grow. I am thankful for the ability to help people feel normal. I am thankful for the ability to help people embrace their sexual fantasies, desires, behaviors, orientation and identity. I am thankful when I can help somebody let go of …

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Start your week with a smile.

So you women out there think that ejaculating is so easy for your guy??? Think again. Here is a GREAT clip from Woody Allen’s Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex But Were Afraid To Ask. It’s about 5-7 minutes long but worth watching in its entirely. Thanks so much to Felix from IASHS …

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Vulvodynia — What was I thinking?

I am a very active member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT).  I’m a sex therapist with a private practice in Colorado.  Yesterday, I had a patient with a very complex case of vulvodynia so I put out the word confidentially to my colleagues at AASECT that I needed the …

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“Changing landscapes” in infidelity.

The New York Times recently did an article on the changing patterns of adultery. Data suggests that there are significant shifts, with interesting pattern shifts. It seems that older people, as well as women, are raising the averages significantly. These are trends that make sense when you consider that people are more active socially later …

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Why do I taste like that?

When I was in college I had a floor mate who was always drinking gallons of apple juice from his micro fridge. Finally one day I asked him why he was drinking apple juice like it was going out of style. He said, “Shan, some girl told me that my ejaculate tasted like apple juice, …

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Selecting the right therapist for you…

I frequently get calls from friends and family wanting to know what they should look for when selecting a therapist. My advice: In this age of specialization you should be able to select a therapist who has expertise in your very specific area of concern. Second, studies show that up to 45% of the effectiveness …

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