Over the past few weeks I have been helping a couple learn to better communicate about sex. The husband has a fetish and it has been difficult for him to find sufficient courage to use the words to ask for what he wants sexually. We worked on radical honesty and I am pleased to report that they have had wonderful breakthroughs. Imagine my chagrin however last week when I read an article on the front page of the New York Times that referred to an Olympic soccer player who was accidentally kicked in the “private parts.” Nuts! The term “private parts” breeds shame and guilt, something that we certainly don’t need more of! Whether you are talking to your kids or your lover, I encourage people to use language that is sex positive and fun. After all, pleasure is a good thing….