So here’s an odd thing. Yet another patient, tall, dark, very attractive and in her early 40’s said to me “Geeze. The best sex we ever had was when he was having an affair…and I KNEW ABOUT IT.” This is soooo not the first time I’ve heard this. And why was this, I asked her. …
Continue ReadingBirth control pills…
So as a professional I have many mixed feelings about the good old birth control pill. On the one hand they can really ease a woman’s worries about becoming pregnant and that’s a great thing. On the other hand, more and more studies are coming out suggesting that they lower hormone levels which effect women’s …
Continue ReadingTeaching about sex.
I’m giving another HS sex ed class tomorrow. I always worry there won’t be enough to say, which is kind of ridiculous given that most people can talk about sex ad infinitem. Anyhow, in my heart of heats I think if a sex ed class includes these four items, you’re good: Sex and vaginal intercourse …
Continue ReadingErotic reading.
I just recently read a really great erotic book titled Aqua Erotica: 18 Stories for a Steamy Bath, by Mary Anne Mohanraj. It has sexy stories all centered around water. The book is waterproof and intended to be read in the bath tub, but can be read at any time. The stories are short and …
Continue ReadingNewsletter talks about “what Is normal.”
The Medical Center for Female Sexuality has posted its May newsletter on its Web site. This month’s topic is “what is normal.” Along with an article from our contributor, Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, there are some fun statistics about sex and a review of a book written to help parents talk to their kids about …
Continue ReadingBetter Sex Blog contributor quoted in “The Week Daily.”
Michael A. Werner, MD, one of our contributors was recently quoted in The Week Daily, a publication that reports on the most important news of the week. Dr. Werner was speaking about the importance of Viagra on the 10th anniversary of its introduction.
Continue ReadingOne man’s…
It never ceases to amaze me…one day recently I had two back to back vaginismus patients. “What’s vaginismus?” you ask. It’s a condition (not that rare at all mind you) where a woman can’t get a penis into her vagina. It can be severe. She can’t get a finger or a tampon in. Or it …
Continue ReadingOn reading erotica (okay, so it’s porn).
Often I will recommend to my women patients with low desire (in addition to other medical stuff we’re working on- and as they start feeling less resistant) that it is good to learn to get yourself turned on. And if you can get into the habit of getting yourself turned on a couple of times …
Continue ReadingWhy not talking about sex is not so good…
The most interesting thing about the fact that people are unwilling to talk about sex is that it distorts our view. With no basis for comparison, we assume that what we do is “normal,” anyone who does stuff that’s more adventurous is “kinky” and anyone who isn’t comfortable with what we do is “repressed.” Can …
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