Female Sexuality: Orgasms, Lack Interest, Painful Sex

Women's sexual response is a complex blend of emotional and physical stimuli. We are greatly affected by the early messages we received from our family, our religion and our culture. From a very young age we are bombarded with images and notions of what our bodies look like and how we act sexuality. Most of these ideas have little bearing on reality, but they often have tremendous power over our expectations and self-image. To truly enjoy sex, we may need to free ourselves of preconceived ideas about beauty and sex and learn what feels good to us and what we enjoy. If we are willing to explore and experiment, it is likely that we can find the kind of sex that feels good to us both physically and emotionally.

There is a tremendous amount that we are beginning to appreciate about women's sexual response, including a complete understanding of the blood vessels and nerves in the pelvis, and how surgeries, childbirth, illnesses, medications, hormonal changes and aging may affect a woman's sexual experience. Research into this area has become more focused in recent years and we are learning more about it every day.

ARE YOU DISSATISFIED WITH YOUR SEX LIFE?
At some point in a woman's life she may feel, for any number of reasons, that her sex life isn't as satisfying as it could be.
This may be because she doesn't get excited or because when she is sexually excited, she doesn't become physically aroused or lubricated. She may not have an orgasm (either she has never had one or she no longer has them.) A woman may find intercourse difficult, painful or physically irritating. Sometimes a woman's interest in sex doesn't match up with her partner's, or she doesn't feel emotionally close to or trusting of her partner. There can be any number of reasons, physical or psychological (or a combination of the two), why a woman may feel that she doesn't have a full and satisfying sex life.

The key to remember is that everyone's sex life is individual and there is no objective standard every woman or man needs to meet. If your sex life works for you and your partner, then you should not worry about national averagest; or what everyone else is doing. If, however, you feel dissatisfied with your sex life, in any way, you may want to consider exploring the causes.

Generally, women's questions fall into one of the following 4 areas. Please click on the links below to get more information on any of these areas .

I am having trouble having an orgasm or having the kind of orgasms I used to.

I am troubled about my lack of interest in sex.

I am interested in sex but my body doesn't seem to respond by becoming aroused or lubricated.

When I have intercourse, it is painful.

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